HOLD ON TO YOUR MARRIAGE. Marriage is a School where u get d Certificate before u start. A school where you will never graduate, ... A school without a break or a free period, A school where no one is allowed to drop out, A school which you will have to attend every day of your life, A school where there is no sick leave or holidays. A school founded by God: 1.On the foundation of love, 2.The walls are made out of trust, 3.The door made out of acceptance, 4.The windows made out of understanding 5.The furniture made out of blessings 6.The roof made out of faith Before you forget, you are just a student not the principal, God is the Principal Even in times of storms, don't be unwise and run outside, remember this school is the safest place to be. Never go to sleep before completing your assignments for the day Never forget the C-word, Communicate, communicate, communicate to your classmate and to the Principal If you find out something in your classmate (spouse) that you do not appreciate. Remember your classmate is also just a student not a graduate, God is not finished with him/her yet. So take it as a challenge and work on it together. Do not forget to study, study, study the Holy Book (the main textbook in this school), Start each day with a sacred assembly and end it the same way. Sometimes you will feel like not attending classes, yet you have to. When tempted to quit find courage and continue. Some tests and exams may be tough but remember the Principal knows how much you can bear. But still it is a school better than any other, It is one of the best schools on earth; joy, peace and happiness accompany each lessons of the day. Different subjects are offered in this school, yet love is the major subject, After all the years of theorizing about it, now you have a chance to practice it. To be loved is a good thing, but to love is a greatest privilege of them all Marriage is a place of love, so love your spouse. Have a wonderful night rest and do have a sweet dreams.

10 Morning Habits to Build Your Day Upon

Over the past year I have come to see the morning as the foundation upon which I build my entire day – mentally, physically, and spiritually. I find that if I start the day by doing the habits listed in this article, I am usually happier, healthier, more productive throughout the day. In contrast, if my morning is chaotic and rushed I find that my energy runs out later in the day and I generally get a lot less done. Here then are 10 morning habits I believe will provide you with a solid foundation upon which to go about your entire day: 1. Wake Earlier It seems there are endless articles online espousing the benefits of waking earlier. But when you think about it, this really is the key to overhauling your morning routine. With more time, you are free to develop the habits listed in this article and actually enjoy the morning free from the pressure of having to rush out the door. If you would like to develop this habit, I suggest the following articles/ sites: How to Become An Early Riser – Steve Pavlina 10 Benefits of Rising Early, and How to Do It – Zen Habits How I Won the Battle of the Bed – Iwillchangeyourlife How to Wake Up Early (an entire site devoted to waking early tips) 2. Have a ‘”Holy Hour” One of my favorite personal development coaches, Robin Sharma, advocates taking a “Holy Hour” each morning. Basically this is an hour you devote to working on yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. If you do this, instead of turning on the computer soon after you wake up (as I know many people do in this modern age), you will set yourself up for a great day. 3. Meditate Meditation is the practice of silencing the mind, and the morning is a particularly good time to do it. Just a few of its many benefits include improved concentration, better health, and increased knowledge of self. If you would like to learn more about meditation and how to get started, I highly recommend reading 4 Powerful Reasons to Meditate and How to Get Started. 4. Visualize the Day Ahead A simple, yet extremely powerful, exercise to practice in the morning is to shut your eyes and visualize how you want the day to unfold. This will give you direction as you go about your day and help you to avoid getting distracted with “urgent” but unimportant tasks. 5. Read and/ or Listen to Motivational Material This may sound cheesy, but one of the reasons I love the morning is that an entire day of endless possibilities lies ahead. One of the best ways to ignite this spirit of endless possibilities is to devour some motivational material, impossiblewhether it be in the form of a book, audiobook or podcast. If you want some help finding motivational audiobooks and podcasts, check out this Free Audio and Podcasts article. 6. Think the Impossible Since we are on the subject of endless possibilities, why not try an exercise that is inspired by the White Queen in Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland: “Alice laughed: “There’s no use trying,” she said; “one can’t believe impossible things.” “I daresay you haven’t had much practice,” said the Queen. “When I was younger, I always did it for half an hour a day. Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” Allowing your mind to let go of the rational and, instead, to explore the world of the “impossible” is a great way to get your creative juices flowing. And Aristotle did once say that the mark of an educated or mature mind is that it’s able to “entertain a thought without accepting it.” 7. Eat a Nutritious Breakfast A nutritious and balanced breakfast is essential if you want to fire up your metabolism and keep yourself powered up throughout your day. In his article 6 Practical Tips for Increasing Energy Using Food, Todd from We The Change explains: “Simple carbs release sugar in the body at a faster rate than complex carbs, fats, and protein, and give the body an immediate “up” feeling. But it is short-lived, and if you are in the habit of a high carb breakfast you are constantly fighting a battle for energy during the day.” So forget the carbs and instead eat whole-grain cereal, eggs, fresh fruit or a even a health shake for breakfast. 8. Exercise There are immense benefits to exercising in the morning. First, it raises your metabolism which helps to burn calories all day. Second, it starts the day with a positive accomplishment. I always feel ready to take on anything after exercising, and it is great to carry this momentum into the day. If you would like to kickstart the exercise habit, I recommend the following articles: How to Make Exercise Last – Pick the Brain 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit and How to Keep It – Lifehack 9. Sharpen Your Brain Exercising your brain is as important (if not more!) than exercising your muscles. Some fun activities to keep your mind sharp include Sudoku, Kakuro (my personal favorite), crosswords, quizzes, and brain teasers. I also highly recommend the site Sharp Brains for a variety of brain fitness resources. 10. Take Time to Look Good It’s a fact of life that people judge us by our appearance. For this reason, it’s a good idea to spend a few extra minutes in risky businessthe morning to ensure you go out into the world looking the best you can. In fact, a recent study by two economists found “extra time spent grooming has a positive and significant effect on both men’s and women’s earnings”. This was found to be especially true for men, where “10 minutes daily grooming increases their weekly wages by 6 percent”. Just remember, though, at some point you will need to put your pants on and get on with your day…

Acidosis & Disease

Diet-induced acidosis and diseases FOR a long time I have written about acidosis (decrease in the level of the pH of the body fluid below 7.0) caused by dehydration. This concept has been proven to be true by the number of testimonies of people who have had certain medical conditions reversed by drinking water. The concept of diet-induced acidosis as a cause of disease has also been a subject of interest for more than a century. I have also written extensively about foods that are either alkaline or acid forming and avoiding those that are acid forming has changed the health status of quite a few people who wrote to me. To support what I have been writing about all these years, I have decided to bring your way the works of some researchers in other countries and I believe that this will encourage some that we are actually doing the right thing. The researchers, Pizzornoa, Frassettoa and Katzinger have clearly identified that acidosis is a very real threat to our health. Dr. Robert Young has also found out in his research that the effects of acidosis can directly contribute to various cancers, including pancreatic cancer, arthritis, osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, diabetes, depression, Crohn’s disease, and kidney disease. Of particular interest to me is the effect of living alkaline to kidney disease which unknown to you is affecting a number of Nigerians today. Furthermore we will explore the role of alkalinity in the management of obesity, muscle gain, energy increases, libido increases, skin improvements and more. Alkaline diet and cancer Alkaline minerals prevent cancer growth. In March 2009, Robey, Baggett, Kirkpatrick, et al published a paper in the American Association for Cancer Research Journal proving that alkaline minerals (in this case NaHCO3 – sodium bicarbonate) that increases the extracellular pH of cancer tumor cells and prevent metastasis. Their research shows that the pH of the tumors are always acidic and by using highly alkaline minerals to raise the pH – the growth of the cancer (and involvement of lymph nodes) is prevented. Source: Cancer Research 69, 2260, March 15, 2009 Cancer Thrives in an acidic environment In a Cancer Research Journal, in 2006, Gatenby, Gawlinski, et al researched and discovered “chronic exposure of normal tissue to an acidic microenvironment produces toxicity by: (a) normal cell death… and (b) extracellular matrix degradation”. They proffer that glucose imbalance (an acid lifestlye) leads to a chronically acidic micro-environment (the normal cells and molecules that surround a tumor cell) which provides the perfect base for cancer. Source: Cancer Research 66, 5216-5223, May 15, 2006. Acidosis and Osteoporosis: Alkaline minerals prevent osteoporosis. A recently published study in the Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism (Vol 94, No 1 96-102, 2009) has provided further evidence that the consumption of and supplementation with alkaline minerals is essential for good health. The objective of the study was to understand the effect of alkaline minerals (potassium bicarbonate, sodium bicarbonate and potassium chloride) on bone health – specifically, the ability of these alkaline minerals to slow the bone resorption rate and calcium excretion. The participants who were taking the bicarbonate supplements had significant reductions in urinary N-telopeptide and calcium excretion when compared to the control group. This means that when taking the alkaline minerals, bones remained stronger and healthier. Source: Journal of Clinical Endocrinology and Metabolism (Vol 94, No 1 96-102, 2009). Cardiovascular disease (CVD) the alkaline diet Alkaline minerals critical to prevention of CVD. In the Journal of Orthomolecular Medicine, Joseph Campbell provides a thorough review of the scientific literature surrounding minerals and disease and highlights that the alkaline minerals, magnesium and calcium, are critical to the prevention of cardiovascular disease (CVD). He also highlights “excessive consumption of acid producing foods, results in metabolic acidosis. When this occurs, the parathyroid hormone stimulates the removal of calcium from the bones and teeth (osteolysis), to buffer or neutralize the excess acidity. After many years, such calcium loss results in depleted bone, bone weakness and structure.” Source: Journal of Orthomolecular Medicine Vol. 10, No. 3 & 4, 1995 Arthritis and alkalinity Alkaline mineral supplementation decreases pain in rheumatoid arthritis patients. This incredible study from Institute for Prevention and Nutrition (Germany) provided clear and unquestionable evidence that using an alkaline mineral supplement (30g daily) reduced pain and increased movement in patients with moderately active Rheumatoid Arthritis over a 12-week period. Source: The Open Nutrition Journal, 2008, 2, 100-105.

Mistakes Men Make In Marriage

Mistakes Men Make In Marriage

MEN, you often don’t mean to nag, but you may be making mistakes that risk ruining your marriage. In fact, if you are a typical man, you are likely making several mistakes, and making them often. Don’t believe me? Ask your wife.

Now, before you get all defensive, this isn’t about blame. These are not ridiculous relationship mistakes; they are the subtle things that you might not even know you’re doing. And changing these habits could make a big difference to your wife and that can only be good for you. Recognizing these mistakes and making efforts to correct them will not only help your marriage, it may also help your health and that of your spouse.

Over time, negative feelings in a relationship that are not addressed can lead to physical and psychological problems, says Silver Spring. Now, I want to show you some of those things you are doing wrong and which are hurting your wife without you knowing it. As usual, I expect some attacks from the men, but that won’t matter; I am enjoying every bit of it and I love you guys.

Being Sexually Selfish or Clueless

In the bedroom, according to Maslow, men forget or, worse, haven’t figured out that their wives often need more than they do to get turned on.

“Affection, making her feel loved and needed is basic for her to feel aroused,” Maslow says.

Vanderhorst says turning a woman on begins well before the lights go down. “Men perceive sex as a sufficient means of being close, of having a connection”, she says. But women want a connection prior to having sex.

To a typical man, sex is about going in there and coming out before the woman even starts to enjoy it. Like Vanderhorst says, turning a woman on begins before the lights go down. If you must get your wife to desire sex with you, you must be ready to get her to be happy and excited having you around even before sunset.

A good number of men complain about their wives losing appetite for sex once they have children. It is not always the case of a woman losing appetite for sex or having a low libido; it is about you and the man you are. How do you expect a normal human being to get aroused after your shouting and nagging? For a good sex life with your wife, you must be willing to create a good atmosphere for sex. I know she can be crazy and often gets on your nerves, but God has given you the ability to treat her as the weaker vessel.

Please create time to ignore your own sexual satisfaction and give up yourself for her pleasure. Explore her body to find out what her erogenous zones are and how best she wants you to handle them. It is an adventure worth taking for the woman you love.

Losing Her Friendship

Everyone desires to be with the loved one. The mistake often made by men is their belief that a woman doesn’t really need a man the moment she starts having babies. Men often times ignore their wives believing the company of the children is enough for her. Sir, her marriage is to you and not to the children.

A good number of African men end the friendship they have with their wife as soon as their babies come. What you don’t know is that the woman needs you more at that stage of her life. Don’t go the way of other men who dump their wives at home and find pleasure in the company of friends and other women. If you choose to go that way, chances are she won’t be there by the time you start seeking her company and friendship because she must have created friends and other companies to take your place.

From my counselling sessions, I have come to realize that men often misbehave at the early stage of their marriage only for them to start looking for her friendship at the later part of their lives. This is when you see men complaining of their wives not having their time, but the truth is that she is doing what she is familiar with- living her life without you.

Worshipping the Mother

I am one person who does not joke with elderly people. I also believe our parents must be properly taken care of. But I also believe a woman should be given the respect due to her in her husband’s house.

A good number of men don’t have regard for their wives. Recently, during my trip to Port Harcourt, a man came to me with a complaint about his sister who is in a marriage where the man gives money to his mother to cook not just for her husband, but also for him, the son. This is about leading to the end of her marriage as the girl’s family is bent on taking her out of that home. Guys, this is very wrong and no woman will be happy to be treated this way. Even your mother who is happily involved in this will kick against it if her daughter were to be treated that way.

The moment you get married to your wife, your mother ceases to have that very place in your heart. Give her all that she wants and make her feel loved, but let her understand that loving your wife means her you. Often times we complain about bad daughters-in-law. I have found out that the women in most cases are not really mean, but were pushed to a point where they could not but change negatively.

I am not saying there are no terrible women; there are, but men should stop turning the good women to what they are not. What do you expect when you give money for foodstuffs to your mother instead of your wife? What do you expect her to do when you keep running to your mother to ask for advice before you buy her clothes? The natural way of reacting to your style is for the woman to automatically hate your mother.

Stop hiding things about your family from her because that tells her she is just a stranger in your midst. When you are talking to your mother and the moment your wife comes out you change the topic of discussion, don’t think she doesn’t have an idea of what you are doing; she knows and will do everything to protect her own territory too. Let everyone around you know you are one with your wife.

Conflict Resolution

How do you handle issues in your home? Are you one of those men who get their friends and family involved in every argument? Are you the type that runs out to meet other women who sweet tongue you the moment you fall out with your wife? Are you that man who brings his sisters to come and beat up his wife after a fight? If you fall into any of these groups, I am sorry, but I have to let you know you are yet to become a man.

There is no problem too difficult for a real man. You may not agree with me, but the truth is that no woman is uncontrollable. The only thing that makes her look uncontrollable is the inability of her man to identify the key to her head and heart. No matter her level of madness, there is a man out there who has the key to her sanity and this is why I tell women to always be careful in their choice of a man.

Instead of you raising your hand on a woman or like some men do, carrying your chair to exchange words with a woman, bring out the man in you. Words are powerful and can conquer strong nations and kings. Words, sweet words, spoken at the right time when she is calm, can melt that very strong and tough heart.

Market List

It is surprising to know there are still men in this age and time who ask their wives for market list. Some even go the extent of asking their wife to submit her market list to the secretary for screening and approval. If you are such a man, you are a disgrace to nature. Some men won’t even give the woman money to go to the market; they do the shopping themselves all in the name of love. Others follow her to the market all in the name of love, but the truth is that they are monitoring her spending. If she is your wife, stop monitoring her.

I advise women not to make themselves too cheap by lying when it comes to market list, but I also don’t blame them much because when a man keeps her as a full time housewife and at the same time does not provide for her, the only option left is for her to start looking for ways to get some money for her upkeep. If I may ask, who should spend your money if not your wife?

Lack of appreciation

When was the last time you looked at your wife and appreciated something in and about her? When was the last time you told her how much you love her? Sir, she knows you love her, but like every other woman out there, her ears yearn to hear it every morning. She doesn’t want you to carry the burden alone and so she works hard for the family; it’s time you started praising her and letting her know you appreciate it all.

Being married to her for 20 years is not a good enough reason for you to ignore the very thing that keeps the flame of love in your home. You may be doing everything possible for her to know that you love her; she knows, but she will appreciate you more if you add words to works.

Before you do anything to your wife, please pause and ask yourself this question: how will I feel if a man does this to my daughter or sister? If your answer is in the negative, please don’t do it to her
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Bananas prevent HIV infection

Bananas prevent HIV infection: Chemicals found in bananas are better at preventing HIV than two current synthetic anti-HIV drugs, according to new study. Your favorite oblong fruit might be even healthier than you realized. According to The Gazette (Montreal) newspaper, a new study has found that chemicals commonly found in bananas are as potent in preventing HIV as two synthetic anti-HIV drugs. Researchers say the findings could lead to a cheap new component for applied microbicides that prevent sexual transmission of HIV. The miracle substance in bananas is called BanLec, a type of lectin, which are the sugar-binding proteins found in a variety of plants. Scientists have long been interested in lectins because of their ability to halt the chain reaction that leads to certain viral infections. In the case of BanLec, it works by binding naturally to the sugar-rich envelope that encases the HIV virus, thus blocking its entry into the body. "The problem with some HIV drugs is that the virus can mutate and become resistant, but that's much harder to do in the presence of lectins," said lead author Michael D. Swanson. "Lectins can bind to the sugars found on different spots of the HIV-1 envelope, and presumably it will take multiple mutations for the virus to get around them." Swanson and his colleagues noted that even modest success in developing BanLec into a vaginal or anal microbicide could save millions of lives. In fact, 20 percent coverage with a microbicide that is only 60 percent effective against HIV may prevent up to 2.5 million HIV infections in three years. Furthermore, a BanLec ointment would be much cheaper to produce and distribute than most current anti-retroviral medications that require the production of synthetic components. One thing's for sure: new ways of stopping the transmission of HIV are desperately needed. Condoms are effective, but they are often used incorrectly or inconsistently, and in many cultures and developing countries women are not always in control of their sexual encounters. The introduction of a cheap, long-lasting, self-applied ointment derived naturally from bananas could change all of that.

LIFE & STYLE: People, Places and Events

IN a bid to promote the culture and tradition of the Osun people on an international platform, the state government recently partnered Eko Promotions to feature Oduduwa float at the Notting Hill Carnival held recently in London. The procession, which featured other cultural displays by other Nigerians in their traditional regalia, especially those from the Yoruba speaking states, witnessed a colorful display of African culture. Featuring for the first time in the history of the carnival that brings people across the globe together, the event paraded activities such as the famous Eyo masquerade, Sango, drummers and traditional dancers, who showcased electrifying steps. Speaking on the project, the Creative Directors of Eko Promotions, Mrs. Bose Akindipe, informed that the initiative was conceived as a platform to celebrate the rich culture of the state, as well as educate the younger generation on the importance of tradition. There is a large number of Nigerians in the United Kingdom and other parts of the world, she said. “These set of people are already feeling a sense of disconnect from their background and events such as this help to refresh their memory.” According to Akindipe, the Yoruba tribe has a very rich culture, which should always be showcase to the world. “Like other cultures in Nigeria, we need to create opportunities to promote the Yoruba culture; Notting Hill was a perfect opportunity to sell our culture. With the level of participation by Nigerians in the UK, it’s obvious that we still have people, who are committed to their roots.” Explaining the choice of Osun State as a partner for this event, Anthony Joseph noted that, “the source of the Yoruba origin is Osun State; it has demonstrated enough commitment to the advancement of Yoruba culture in and outside Nigerian. We are confident that subsequent events will provide opportunities for brands and organisations to showcase their products and services to the world.”